Fear of Control

It has been a few days since I have posted anything, but I am back.

I wanted to talk about the fear of control; and what does that really means. There was a situation in a young lady's life that brought this up recently. For years this young lady had been a faithful member of the body of Christ, loved her pastors and congregation dearly, but something was wrong. She couldn't put her finger on it, but never really could get too close to anyone, the moment she did, a situation would rise up and she would create a distance between the people and her. Only a very few people where allowed in her heart, and then she would test their faithfulness to the hilt. But in her mind that seemed to be the only way she could know if they would be true to her.

You see until very recently when everything around her went swirling downward did she take action. The Lord had told her that this only comes out by fasting and prayer. In April of this certain year she put God to His word, and fasted and prayed, on the 7th day all hell broke loose, and then on the ten day, (three days later) the truth came forth.

John 8:31-3731 To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, "If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. 32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."

I have inserted this to let you know this is the Word she stands on.The truth was for many years due to two fail marriages, and a cult ministry from her pass, that so control her, that it destroyed her life, her marriage, and almost her children and a dad that could care less and never protected her from bad things. So, for all these many years she was only able in her heart to stand aloof, and not really love the way she needed too, for love covers all, and at time she was not able to do that. Her fear had been if she allow a person in authority advise her or direct her steps in anyway that went across the grains of her heart, then she backed off, and put a wall up, so that person could not hurt her no more.

The root had been so deep seeded in her it was almost like part of her DNA, But God shown up, when love came in and she made a choice to be free and let love wash her clean. The one thing God said in His word;"Hebrews 11:6 And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. So if this is true, and it is, can God answer when people are in fear? What is fear?

IJohn 4:18 (NIV)
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
For all these years the young lady felt punished

IPeter 3:14
But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. "Do not fear what they fear; do not be frightened."

Can you see this is clearly not faith; ok so what is faith? What does faith look like?

Gal 3:22
But the Scripture declares that the whole world is a prisoner of sin, so that what was promised, being given through faith in Jesus Christ, might be given to those who believe

Hebrews 11:1-3 (NIV)
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. 2 This is what the ancients were commended for. 3 By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God's command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible.

Ok now I would like to leave you with this question, What kind of control have you feared?

Be honest with yourself and God, and confess your faults one to the other, so you will be free, and go and convert your brothers and sisters.
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